It starts with procrastination.
I’ve been tinkering around the edges—an idea to write a blog and create a website. First in 2008 then later in 2010. Although in 2010, my ideas were shuttled off into a slightly different direction, still with a blog about beauty at the heart of it.
Beauty and Skin Care being my profession for most of my career it made sense to write about it finally, but still, nothing came to pass.
Momentum picked up in 2011 only to have all plans come to a crashing halt when my darling mother succumbed to the debilitating effects of Vascular Dementia and Diabetes. So, my journey or perhaps it would be better to say my course changed. The winds of change blew me in a direction I was not expecting. All this at the age of 51.
I cared for my mother until her passing in January 2013. During the 18 months of full-time care, when there was little thought for anything other than keeping my mum safe on the final leg of her own personal journey, my thoughts of the life I had and what my future would hold, gave rise to the somewhat existential thoughts of what it all meant and with the wonder of life came a shaking, unsettling feeling of futility.
Despite this, I see life as an amazing gift and a privilege, but I know after losing a parent, in what seemed far too soon, I see so clearly the shortness of life, sure we all talk about life being short, but really? We still live in a place of denial most of the time. The silliness of so many things we fuss about, thoughts that just hold us back, stop us from being truly happy.
A different perspective.
All this pondering led me to change my views on the world of ‘beauty’ I had come to inhabit.
You see, the preservation of youthful, healthy skin has always been a driving force in my career or to put it more accurately the preservation of beauty and if I’m truthful the preservation of my own beauty. I guess vanity played a part. Maybe.
Funny isn’t it, where life leads us? Many people I know in the beauty industry, as with so many careers, come to it because of their own personal fears and worries, finding themselves compelled to find out more; think Oprah Winfrey, pretty obvious her life mission and career came from her own personal troubles; but what a success she has made of it.
In the beauty industry, often it comes in the form of problematic skin and the diabolical effects of acne. But really for me, it was not acne, I just became really interested in the skin and how it functions and how to care for my own and then that of others.
Finding the silver lining.
With all this seeking of knowledge came a desire to help others. A noble cause. I know, with tongue planted firmly in cheek. But honestly, I’ve met enough people with skin conditions that deeply impact on their confidence to know it actually can be quite the noble profession. Although these days for me, with much more thought on how your health and mental wellbeing impact on your skin, your beauty and your life.
These days, what I want is to preserve much more than my skin, is the longevity of my mind, for as long as possible. No point having lovely skin if your mind and body fail you. Of course, I’ll always, always pursue ways to have great skin that defies my years. I embrace the desire, not just to care for my skin, but more so to adopt a truly holistic and balanced approach to every organ of the body.
Sharing what I’ve found out.
Not just your skin, but how the mind ages, our overall health, the changes in the delicate balance of our hormones, the changes in attitude and beliefs. What to do about it and how to live well, to live beautifully, today and well into the future.
So, you see, I want to talk about a lot more than your skin, although I will always come back to how to care for your skin; after all, it’s the reason this website was born. I love the science of the skin; it’s so incredibly thin and yet so strong and such a busy organ. You may think it funny to say but I think we should pay homage to our skin, but we tend to ignore it. We shouldn’t, you shouldn’t. It’s essential to self-care, and for more reasons than the obvious ones.
Sometimes not caring is a sign of something else; of denial, of depression, of hiding from who you are and your skin is one of only two organs of the body visible to you (the other being your eyes). How amazing is that! Your heart, your lungs, your liver.. all a bit of a mystery. But, your skin? Ahh yes, a true reflection of your inner health, both mentally and physically.
So, I’m done tinkering.
As with so many things, the life and career you make for yourself do not come without its fair share of happenstance. I like that. If all our best-laid plans came to fruition, it may not necessarily be how we thought it would be. The element of not knowing spurs us on to look ahead to the future with a sense of anticipation, no matter what the view looks like today, no matter what transpired in the past, no matter what age you are.
Expect stories about having and getting beautiful skin, about living mindfully, loving the skin and body you’re in and being as happy as we humans can be, no matter how far along into your life you are.
See you next time.